I would also like to start reading a first book by Levenson, ideally one that talks about the release technique. Which one do you recommend to start with?
I always expected releasing to be feeling this huge wave of emotion and then feeling like being reborn. But it seems like the changes are much subtler and you can only chip away a bit with feeling each trigger
Most changes will be subtle, but releasing on bigger issues that have bothered you for entire large segments of your life can provide a powerful wave of relief.
In 2011, was working at a small company with a tight parking space across the street from it, and about to make a right turn into the driveway. Someone who worked at a different suite of that office area, made a left while gunning it, so that he would beat me to it and grab a better, non-tandem space. I was left with a bad one.
As I'm sitting there in my car, the anger side was in full throttle ( look what I did there ). I was going to wait until he walked away and do something to his outside mirror. Being transparent here.
I knew that wasn't going to solve anything. I just simply sat there and felt the full brunt of it and even though I'm not really a fan of eft as a regular thing, I wanted to rush the process... so I did tap on those points for 2 rounds. Instant relief ( but I owe it to just feeling the emotion ).
I was better off for the entire day, moreso than if this had *not* happened. I felt grateful that this current "lifetime", where I "get it", has me staying on the higher ground and neutralize something that causes someone else's 3D to get a lot worse by treating 3D incidences in the worst way.
Great example, Steve. I think the hardest thing is the compulsiveness of our responses. When someone does something rude or nasty, it's almost as if (at least for me in the early parts of my journey) I wasn't even angry but felt I had to respond angrily just out of principle. A lot of us come from backgrounds where it's seen as an immense sign of weakness to let things go -- "you let people walk all over you." But releasing isn't the same thing as allowing yourself to be a punching back. It's a rising up above reaction and actively choosing not to be bothered, as opposed to being bothered but suppressing it for fear of further punishment.
Yes, you're right. Need to pick a time when releasing is a good idea. Most interactions for me in my life, fortunately, have not been in that category where responding physically is necessary. I almost like it when incidences like I described happen, due to something "crunchy" that I could release on, and further unburden myself, and then life is smoother in the 3d from then on.
This is also what I came to understand about karma. Thanks for reinforcing my understanding of it.
Long ago I read, for the first time, a phrase that said 'what you resist, persists'. I understood its true meaning only after learning of releasing through your posts, and then from that popular story about Lester Levenson.
Sometimes I wonder how sitting with a discomfortable feeling and just feel it fully, that we naturally want to avoid, can reduce its effect. Turns out, it does reduce the intensity of that feeling or emotion a little bit the next time you encounter it, and littler the next time and so on.
My personal experience, so far, has been, that the more I sit with an uncomfortable feeling generated by, say, a past undesirable memory, the more it seems to be losing its grip on me. And then those memories come less and less in the way of the desired imaginings.
Would you say that my understanding of releasing is correct?
Totally correct. Releasing is so simple that it strikes people as strange. But it's like watching a thriller and seeing the big twist -- suddenly, everything leading up to that moment makes sense in a new context. Releasing provides resolution. When we see how different energies and emotions have grown and twisted and been suppressed over time, and how those energies/emotions have led to new energies and emotions forming in response to them, we're able to resolve our problems just via awareness.
Now I await even more eagerly for your take on revision, and how you would practically use it in conjunction with releasing.
Thank you, A.C. You don't know how much of help your teachings have been to me.
EDIT : I also wanted to know something more from you, if that's okay. There are times when I'm not alone/outside when suddenly something will unconsciously trigger a discomforting feeling within me. And because I'm so distracted by the surroundings, I am unable to release that feeling at that moment, which I naturally want to do immediately (ironic, as I'm trying to get rid of that discomfort ASAP).
In such times, it takes me hours to come back to a place where I'm alone with myself. And eventually I'm able feel comfortable, and that feeling loses a bit of its impact.
I am not too fond of this process, as my distracted mind keeps me lingering in that discomforting state for some time.
I don't know if I'm making much sense here. But if I am, may I ask if you also ever feel (/felt) this in your experience? If yes, then how do (/did) you work around it?
I have felt that before. It's something that'll resolve with practice. Like any new skill, releasing requires attentive practice at first -- when you're in the moment, you'll naturally revert back to your old methods of handling emotions. But the more you do it, the easier it'll become to do it on the fly. Eventually, you'll be able to release in the moment, no matter the circumstances.
Everytime I read an insightful post from you, I feel this surge of happiness and peace, because I have been very consciously using your teachings combined with Neville's, with great effects.
I also read 'Letting Go', at your recommendation in your book. I realized that I had some repressed feelings from my childhood (obviously), about not feeling important. It came as a surprise to me, because I have some really great achievements in life that I had usually given me the feeling of being special. But still, every once in a while, I always felt this feeling of not being noticed, because of a couple of repressed memories and emotions from the past.
As soon as I identified them, it felt like that little kid version of me had been there sitting as a watchdog, feeding me these feelings of being ignored; silently waiting to be recognised. Once I recognised it, that kid happily left. It was such a heavy burden lifted off of my chest. And I felt it quite literally. My chest felt lighter and 'spacier'.
It didn't take too long for me to land my career biggest opportunity yet. An opportunity so rare that it would seem unachievable.
This process barely took a week to unfold, and I started doing this only 2 weeks ago.
While I'm writing to you, though, I still feel that fear that I would always have, about some happiness or success not being long lasting. Even when something is working, this fear will tell me to stay grounded OR ELSE! So, even talking about these things would make me scared, almost like a superstition. I'm not scared right now talking about it, but that unrest & discomfort is still poking at me while I'm writing this. I am now trying to figure that out too, because it doesn't feel free, having that feeling lingering behind any celebration or success I have.
If you have some time, and if you don't mind, I would love for you to talk about these 'trivial' seeming matters, that seem to me like huge freedom blockers.
Once again, thank you for your teachings, Dear AC. I've probably written one thank you each for all of my comments on your posts, because your teachings have had so much profound impact on me.
I always had a doubt that how did this all started, for example “Imagine you have a co-worker who you really dislike. One day, you decide to write an anonymous note telling this guy what a jerk he is, and you leave it on his desk at lunchtime.” , here, how did that person started disliking the other one or how come the other one didn’t behaved properly, how the negative knowing came into first place
This energy expression process has been going on long before any of us were born. You might have a bad feeling in the first place because your parent had bad feeling of their own that caused them to act angrily toward you in some instance. This bad feeling may have come from their parent's bad feeling, etc. etc. And the same goes for the coworker. Who knows why they behave badly? All we can say is that there's some feeling causing their actions and that feeling had to have arisen from somewhere.
Apart from your beautiful book, do you have other resources to recommend for improving the release technique from a technical point of view?
The two best resources (in my opinion) are the free audio tapes of Lester Levenson on YouTube and Dr. David Hawkins's book "Letting Go."
I would also like to start reading a first book by Levenson, ideally one that talks about the release technique. Which one do you recommend to start with?
Keys To The Ultimate Freedom. There's a free pdf online if you google it.
I always expected releasing to be feeling this huge wave of emotion and then feeling like being reborn. But it seems like the changes are much subtler and you can only chip away a bit with feeling each trigger
Most changes will be subtle, but releasing on bigger issues that have bothered you for entire large segments of your life can provide a powerful wave of relief.
I agree very much on this perspective.
In 2011, was working at a small company with a tight parking space across the street from it, and about to make a right turn into the driveway. Someone who worked at a different suite of that office area, made a left while gunning it, so that he would beat me to it and grab a better, non-tandem space. I was left with a bad one.
As I'm sitting there in my car, the anger side was in full throttle ( look what I did there ). I was going to wait until he walked away and do something to his outside mirror. Being transparent here.
I knew that wasn't going to solve anything. I just simply sat there and felt the full brunt of it and even though I'm not really a fan of eft as a regular thing, I wanted to rush the process... so I did tap on those points for 2 rounds. Instant relief ( but I owe it to just feeling the emotion ).
I was better off for the entire day, moreso than if this had *not* happened. I felt grateful that this current "lifetime", where I "get it", has me staying on the higher ground and neutralize something that causes someone else's 3D to get a lot worse by treating 3D incidences in the worst way.
Great example, Steve. I think the hardest thing is the compulsiveness of our responses. When someone does something rude or nasty, it's almost as if (at least for me in the early parts of my journey) I wasn't even angry but felt I had to respond angrily just out of principle. A lot of us come from backgrounds where it's seen as an immense sign of weakness to let things go -- "you let people walk all over you." But releasing isn't the same thing as allowing yourself to be a punching back. It's a rising up above reaction and actively choosing not to be bothered, as opposed to being bothered but suppressing it for fear of further punishment.
Yes, you're right. Need to pick a time when releasing is a good idea. Most interactions for me in my life, fortunately, have not been in that category where responding physically is necessary. I almost like it when incidences like I described happen, due to something "crunchy" that I could release on, and further unburden myself, and then life is smoother in the 3d from then on.
This is also what I came to understand about karma. Thanks for reinforcing my understanding of it.
Long ago I read, for the first time, a phrase that said 'what you resist, persists'. I understood its true meaning only after learning of releasing through your posts, and then from that popular story about Lester Levenson.
Sometimes I wonder how sitting with a discomfortable feeling and just feel it fully, that we naturally want to avoid, can reduce its effect. Turns out, it does reduce the intensity of that feeling or emotion a little bit the next time you encounter it, and littler the next time and so on.
My personal experience, so far, has been, that the more I sit with an uncomfortable feeling generated by, say, a past undesirable memory, the more it seems to be losing its grip on me. And then those memories come less and less in the way of the desired imaginings.
Would you say that my understanding of releasing is correct?
Totally correct. Releasing is so simple that it strikes people as strange. But it's like watching a thriller and seeing the big twist -- suddenly, everything leading up to that moment makes sense in a new context. Releasing provides resolution. When we see how different energies and emotions have grown and twisted and been suppressed over time, and how those energies/emotions have led to new energies and emotions forming in response to them, we're able to resolve our problems just via awareness.
Thank you for your reply.
Now I await even more eagerly for your take on revision, and how you would practically use it in conjunction with releasing.
Thank you, A.C. You don't know how much of help your teachings have been to me.
EDIT : I also wanted to know something more from you, if that's okay. There are times when I'm not alone/outside when suddenly something will unconsciously trigger a discomforting feeling within me. And because I'm so distracted by the surroundings, I am unable to release that feeling at that moment, which I naturally want to do immediately (ironic, as I'm trying to get rid of that discomfort ASAP).
In such times, it takes me hours to come back to a place where I'm alone with myself. And eventually I'm able feel comfortable, and that feeling loses a bit of its impact.
I am not too fond of this process, as my distracted mind keeps me lingering in that discomforting state for some time.
I don't know if I'm making much sense here. But if I am, may I ask if you also ever feel (/felt) this in your experience? If yes, then how do (/did) you work around it?
I have felt that before. It's something that'll resolve with practice. Like any new skill, releasing requires attentive practice at first -- when you're in the moment, you'll naturally revert back to your old methods of handling emotions. But the more you do it, the easier it'll become to do it on the fly. Eventually, you'll be able to release in the moment, no matter the circumstances.
That's indeed wonderful to know.
Thank you AC.
Everytime I read an insightful post from you, I feel this surge of happiness and peace, because I have been very consciously using your teachings combined with Neville's, with great effects.
I also read 'Letting Go', at your recommendation in your book. I realized that I had some repressed feelings from my childhood (obviously), about not feeling important. It came as a surprise to me, because I have some really great achievements in life that I had usually given me the feeling of being special. But still, every once in a while, I always felt this feeling of not being noticed, because of a couple of repressed memories and emotions from the past.
As soon as I identified them, it felt like that little kid version of me had been there sitting as a watchdog, feeding me these feelings of being ignored; silently waiting to be recognised. Once I recognised it, that kid happily left. It was such a heavy burden lifted off of my chest. And I felt it quite literally. My chest felt lighter and 'spacier'.
It didn't take too long for me to land my career biggest opportunity yet. An opportunity so rare that it would seem unachievable.
This process barely took a week to unfold, and I started doing this only 2 weeks ago.
While I'm writing to you, though, I still feel that fear that I would always have, about some happiness or success not being long lasting. Even when something is working, this fear will tell me to stay grounded OR ELSE! So, even talking about these things would make me scared, almost like a superstition. I'm not scared right now talking about it, but that unrest & discomfort is still poking at me while I'm writing this. I am now trying to figure that out too, because it doesn't feel free, having that feeling lingering behind any celebration or success I have.
If you have some time, and if you don't mind, I would love for you to talk about these 'trivial' seeming matters, that seem to me like huge freedom blockers.
Once again, thank you for your teachings, Dear AC. I've probably written one thank you each for all of my comments on your posts, because your teachings have had so much profound impact on me.
I always had a doubt that how did this all started, for example “Imagine you have a co-worker who you really dislike. One day, you decide to write an anonymous note telling this guy what a jerk he is, and you leave it on his desk at lunchtime.” , here, how did that person started disliking the other one or how come the other one didn’t behaved properly, how the negative knowing came into first place
This energy expression process has been going on long before any of us were born. You might have a bad feeling in the first place because your parent had bad feeling of their own that caused them to act angrily toward you in some instance. This bad feeling may have come from their parent's bad feeling, etc. etc. And the same goes for the coworker. Who knows why they behave badly? All we can say is that there's some feeling causing their actions and that feeling had to have arisen from somewhere.