What you’re “doing” now is resisting. Actually, you aren’t even doing that. Awareness can’t “do” anything — it can only be as it is. So when you resist, you’re inventing the person who suffers and the person who resists. If you stop resisting, that person disappears — you reidentify with consciousness, and the “negative” thoughts and feelings cease to affect you.
So if Awarness can’t ‘do anything’ and we are awarness then ‘who’? is resisting ..
When you say ‘if YOU stop resisting’.. who is this ‘you’ if we are awarness.. and awarness can’t do anything..
excellent point about experiencing feelings or emotions secondhand. I've never seen that used as an example of the times we are able to temporarily feel certain feelings or emotions but then shortly afterwards release them and move on to feeling something better, but it certainly clearly highlights the idea that it is a possibility.
would you say that this concept of no longer inventing and identifying with the idea of who you think you are works similarly with physical feelings as well? the "me" I identify with suffers from various chronic issues (migraines, chronic pain and fatigue). I luckily don't have health anxiety as I have regularly been told I am perfectly healthy. this has actually long been a frustrating area for me as I have wanted something to address and also to feel validated. I was often dismissed, especially when I was younger, and told that it was "just in my head". perhaps that is why I am in this situation today. my physical issues feel real but my body says I'm good.
I have come to accept that it is "all in my head" so to speak. I am no longer looking for, wanting or needing validation and in fact I am doubling down on the idea that it's "in my head".
can I approach this in the same way to feelings and emotions? it's not uncommon to wince or look away when witnessing someone getting injured and while it's not the exact painful reaction, there is a secondhand reaction to their experience similar to feeling secondhand embarrassment or feeling scared while watching a horror movie.
I've worked very hard to convince myself I feel good, deprived pain and discomfort of attention, but I still struggle. I feel like, since I have easily accepted that most of my physical ailments are "in my head" I might be more successful at no longer identifying with the concept I have of myself as opposed to trying to change the
am I on the right track here?
(also, I'm totally aware that you are not a medical doctor and are not giving medical advice, lol)
Yes, I think the process absolutely works with physical feelings as well. It might be a bit harder to remain non-resistant in the face of physical discomfort (for whatever reason, we seem to be more deeply conditioned to be averse to physical pain, maybe because we link it so closely to survival) but you can still do it. In the past, I've recommended Martin Brofman's book "Anything Can Be Healed," and you can also go to: https://bodymirror.proboards.com/board/1/healer-message-board
which hosts the forums for the Brofman Foundation. Martin was incredibly active on here right up until his passing, and if you search by symptoms/illness/issue you can likely find threads relating to your problem and maybe even Martin's take on a solution. His system of healing is in the same ballpark as the general non-resistance discussed in this post but is more structured and actionable.
What you’re “doing” now is resisting. Actually, you aren’t even doing that. Awareness can’t “do” anything — it can only be as it is. So when you resist, you’re inventing the person who suffers and the person who resists. If you stop resisting, that person disappears — you reidentify with consciousness, and the “negative” thoughts and feelings cease to affect you.
So if Awarness can’t ‘do anything’ and we are awarness then ‘who’? is resisting ..
When you say ‘if YOU stop resisting’.. who is this ‘you’ if we are awarness.. and awarness can’t do anything..
So confused 🫤
Hello, i've a question. Is the way to release a desire the same as releasing a negative belief?
Yes
excellent point about experiencing feelings or emotions secondhand. I've never seen that used as an example of the times we are able to temporarily feel certain feelings or emotions but then shortly afterwards release them and move on to feeling something better, but it certainly clearly highlights the idea that it is a possibility.
would you say that this concept of no longer inventing and identifying with the idea of who you think you are works similarly with physical feelings as well? the "me" I identify with suffers from various chronic issues (migraines, chronic pain and fatigue). I luckily don't have health anxiety as I have regularly been told I am perfectly healthy. this has actually long been a frustrating area for me as I have wanted something to address and also to feel validated. I was often dismissed, especially when I was younger, and told that it was "just in my head". perhaps that is why I am in this situation today. my physical issues feel real but my body says I'm good.
I have come to accept that it is "all in my head" so to speak. I am no longer looking for, wanting or needing validation and in fact I am doubling down on the idea that it's "in my head".
can I approach this in the same way to feelings and emotions? it's not uncommon to wince or look away when witnessing someone getting injured and while it's not the exact painful reaction, there is a secondhand reaction to their experience similar to feeling secondhand embarrassment or feeling scared while watching a horror movie.
I've worked very hard to convince myself I feel good, deprived pain and discomfort of attention, but I still struggle. I feel like, since I have easily accepted that most of my physical ailments are "in my head" I might be more successful at no longer identifying with the concept I have of myself as opposed to trying to change the
am I on the right track here?
(also, I'm totally aware that you are not a medical doctor and are not giving medical advice, lol)
Yes, I think the process absolutely works with physical feelings as well. It might be a bit harder to remain non-resistant in the face of physical discomfort (for whatever reason, we seem to be more deeply conditioned to be averse to physical pain, maybe because we link it so closely to survival) but you can still do it. In the past, I've recommended Martin Brofman's book "Anything Can Be Healed," and you can also go to: https://bodymirror.proboards.com/board/1/healer-message-board
which hosts the forums for the Brofman Foundation. Martin was incredibly active on here right up until his passing, and if you search by symptoms/illness/issue you can likely find threads relating to your problem and maybe even Martin's take on a solution. His system of healing is in the same ballpark as the general non-resistance discussed in this post but is more structured and actionable.